Someone asked us:
I’m worried about the size of my vagina, because it is REALLY small and tight, to the point that tampons hurt going in. It is tight inside but the main problem is that I always feel like the outside hole area is tearing whenever anything is pushing in, and I’m pretty sure it’s not a lube problem. I’m also a virgin, and although I’m not in a relationship now, part of the reason I haven’t had sex in the past is because of the pain. Even 1-fingering can hurt if it goes in at the wrong angle. help?
If you’re having pain or discomfort from vaginal penetration, especially if it’s so bad you can’t use tampons, it’s a good idea to get checked out by a doctor. It’s probably not anything to worry about, but there’s no reason for you to suffer.
A few things could be causing your discomfort. The problem could be as simple as your hymen — the thin tissue that stretches across the opening of the vagina. For most people, tampons and individual fingers don’t stretch the hymen enough to cause pain. But some people have more hymenal tissue than others, and can experience pain and/or bleeding even when small things like tampons go into their vagina.
It’s also possible that you have a very common infection or irritation that’s causing your pain (like a yeast infection). Or you could be experiencing vulvodynia or vaginismus, which can cause soreness in your vulva and vagina and make penetration painful. All of these things are treatable, but you gotta see a doctor to figure out what’s up and to get the right treatment.
Try not to freak out. Your local Planned Parenthood health center is here to help. The staff there will be able to give you a clearer picture of what’s going on and help make the pain go away. Don’t be embarrassed either — vulvas and vaginas commonly experience a whole bunch of issues throughout their lives, and nurses and doctors have seen them all.
-Kendall at Planned Parenthood