Someone asked us:
I was thinking about getting a vibrator, but I’ve never had sex. Should I wait?
There’s no reason to wait. Lots of people masturbate for years before they have sex. You can read about the many benefits of masturbation here.
Because you’ve never had sex, you may be worried that using a vibrator will somehow spoil sex with someone else for the first time. But even if your vibrator rules, having sex with someone else will be a different kind of experience. Sex can make you feel more connected to someone you love, or it can be a really fun thing to do with someone you like or feel passionate about. As long as both people feel respected and take steps to reduce their risk of STDs or unintended pregnancy, seeing and touching someone else’s body, being seen and touched by them, getting to know what you both like doing together, and being surprised by trying new things are all thrills that (despite being a great little invention) your vibrator alone can’t give you.
So even if you sit around having great vibrator-induced orgasms for years before you have sex with someone else, you’ll still find that it’s only one way to enjoy yourself.
- Emily at Planned Parenthood