I want to know how one uses a condom and spermicide. I sort of understand how to use a condom, but I heard that spermicide fails because of uses error. Also is it smart to use these two together? Thanks!
Not only is it smart to use condoms if you’re using spermicide, we actually recommend it!
Spermicide is a birth control method that you can get at most drugstores. You put it deep into the vagina and it does two things: (1) blocks the cervix so sperm can’t reach an egg and (2) keeps sperm from moving so they can’t join with an egg.
Spermicides are available in different forms, including creams, film, foams, gels, and suppositories. If you’re going to use spermicide, use it with a condom to make it the most effective it can be.
If you’re going the condom + spermicide route, make sure you read the directions that come with the spermicide before you get started. Then, insert the spermicide into your or your partner’s vagina. Next, put on the condom and voila! You’re ready to roll.
If you use a diaphragm or cervical cap, make sure you bring spermicide along for the ride too.
-Chelsea @ Planned Parenthood
Which birth control method is easy to get, inexpensive, & prevents both pregnancy & STDS? Glad you asked.
A few days ago I was supposed to spend the night with my new boyfriend. When it came time to “do the deed” he told me he didn’t want to use a condom! We’d never had sex before and I didn’t know what to say, so I made up an excuse to leave. I really like him, is there anything I can say next time to convince him to use a condom?
Way to go on not backing down! You should be proud of yourself for standing up for your health. It’s a bummer when someone you really like doesn’t want to use a condom, but there are ways to approach the topic that might help.
First, you could try to find out why they don’t want to use a condom. For example, if they’re worried about sex not feeling as good with a condom, you could suggest thin condoms or add extra lube. Also, if you have a vagina, the FC2 (sometimes called the “female condom”) can feel a bit more natural for some people since it’s looser.
Here’s a list of some possible scenarios and things you could say in response:
If Your Partner Says: I don’t like using condoms. You Can Say: Why not?
If Your Partner Says: It doesn’t feel as good with a condom. You Can Say: I’ll feel more relaxed. If I’m more relaxed, it will be better for both of us.
If Your Partner Says: Condoms are gross. You Can Say: Being pregnant when I don’t want to be is worse. So is getting an STD.
If Your Partner Says: Don’t you trust me? You Can Say: Trust isn’t the point. People can carry sexually transmitted infections without knowing it.
If Your Partner Says: I’ll pull out in time. You Can Say: I want to feel relaxed and enjoy this, and pulling out is just too risky. There’s a chance I could get pregnant from your pre-cum, or we might get too excited to stop. And pulling out doesn’t help much with STDs.
If Your Partner Says: Condoms aren’t romantic. You Can Say: Being together like this and protecting each other’s health sounds really romantic to me.
If Your Partner Says: It just isn’t as sensitive. You Can Say: With a condom you might last even longer, and that’ll make up for it. Or let’s try a female condom.
If Your Partner Says: Putting it on interrupts everything. You Can Say: Not if I help put it on.
If Your Partner Says: I’ll try, but it might not work. You Can Say: Practice makes perfect.
If Your Partner Says: But I love you. You Can Say: Then you’ll help me protect myself.
If Your Partner Says: I guess you don’t really love me. You Can Say: I’m not going to “prove my love” by risking my health. Do you really love me? Do you want me to feel safe?
If Your Partner Says: I’m not using a condom, no matter what. You Can Say: I’m not having sex without a condom, no matter what. Let’s not have sex.
If Your Partner Says: Just this once without it. Just the first time. You Can Say: It only takes once to get pregnant. It only takes once to get a sexually transmitted infection. It only takes once to get HIV.
The important thing here is to make it clear that your health (and your partner’s health) is your priority — and that sex without protection is not an option.
